Conflict often highlights how differently partners can experience the same situation. When your partner expresses their hurt, your first impulse might be to downplay it. However, telling them "it wasn't that bad" can make them feel unseen and rejected.
The key? Validation, not necessarily agreement.
You don't have to share their exact feelings, but acknowledging their experience is crucial.
Next time, try these validating phrases:
* "Honey, I hear you had a tough experience with that, and I'm sorry to hear it."
* "I understand you're feeling differently about what happened."
* "What can we do to make sure this doesn't happen again, or how can I support you right now?"
Remember, validating their feelings builds trust and shows you care, even when your perspectives are different
The key? Validation, not necessarily agreement.
You don't have to share their exact feelings, but acknowledging their experience is crucial.
Next time, try these validating phrases:
* "Honey, I hear you had a tough experience with that, and I'm sorry to hear it."
* "I understand you're feeling differently about what happened."
* "What can we do to make sure this doesn't happen again, or how can I support you right now?"
Remember, validating their feelings builds trust and shows you care, even when your perspectives are different
